OUR FAMILY

LEARN THE ABCDEF'S OF MELANOMA!!! EARLY DETECTION IS THE KEY!

  • ASYMMETRY: Does half of the mole look different from the other half?
  • BORDER: Is the border of the mole irregular or ill defined?
  • COLOR: Is the color uneven or has it changed over time?
  • DIAMETER: Is the mole larger than a pencil eraser?
  • ELEVATION: Has the surface of the mole changed? If it was smooth and flat before, is it now elevated ?
  • FEELING: Has the sensation around the mole changed? Does it itch? Is it painful?
  • PLEASE DO A SKIN EXAM EVERY MONTH AND WATCH FOR THESE SIGNS.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."

Today marks one full week since my high school sweetheart, the love of my life, my true soulmate, went to be with Jesus.  Saying those words, "went to be with Jesus", will never be easy for me, but I have such a peace from them.  Words cannot express the feelings I have inside right now.  Watching our girls play, listening to them fight, knowing they will never see their daddy again on earth, knowing he will never be able to hug and kiss us again like he used to....that makes me horribly sad.  However, seeing and hearing of new souls coming to the Lord or someone going to get their moles checked because of Marcus-this makes me eternally grateful that I am Mindy Stanley, the chosen wife of Marcus Stanley.  He is a great man and I know he is still watching over me, Sela and Sloane.  From my washing machine all of the sudden working on the cold cycle-and no one else worked on it, from the music that played randomly on Sela's Ipod dock as we were talking about her daddy, to the medical equipment that was already scheduled to be picked up on tuesday, when no one knows why, because no one called to do it-that is all Marcus, showing me and the girls that he will forever be taking care of us.

So I will trust in the Lord everyday and I know that we will be ok.  I know that is hard for some people to understand.  They ask me, "How are you holding up?" or, "I know you're not ok, but are you ok?"  I don't know what they expect of me, but I will tell you one thing....Marcus Allen Stanley made me a strong woman. He told me often that I could do anything.  He taught our daughters the same.  That through Christ, we could do it-nothing was impossible.  So, when you look at us and you don't understand how we are holding up so well....just remember who our husband and daddy was.....can you truly expect anything else?  ;)

6 comments:

Unknown said...

That is just the PERFECT "explanation" that I needed to hear Min. I am so proud of you, Marcus, Sela and Sloane!! You have taught me so much. I only wish, that here on earth, I could thank Marcus! Thank him for helping to make "you" who you are today and for giving you (all of us) those precious girls! (And from not running from this crazy family;) YOU have NO IDEA the impact you are having on everyone! Love you, Aunt Kel!

Unknown said...

There's so many things I want to say to you, Mindy; but right now the best I can do is "Ditto, Aunt Kellie"!! You are amazing!! Truly amazing!! The walk you and Marcus have been on has blessed MY Christian life and made my relationship with JESUS CHRIST better and I thank you, and Marcus, for that!!! I LOVE YOU, MINDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

It's good to hear you are holding on so well, your positive attitude will make sure that will never change. and I'm sure just as Marcus taught you to be strong you will be the best teacher for your girls in doing the same. Life goes on ,and as it does, you learn from it and become a better human being. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the girls.
love from MN
Myrna

Nicholson Photography said...

I ♥ the stanleys

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Anonymous said...

Mindy, I've been hoping and praying you would continue to blog. You have touched so many hearts and souls--this is part of your ministry. I remember after Daddy passed not wanting time to pass too quickly. I was worried that the more time that passed from his illness and his passing that he would be forgotten. So, I am here to tell you...I will NEVER, EVER forget Marcus. I will think of him every day and how he has impacted all of us